I had asked RcCam previously, he suggested adding a thread to the forum for other newbies like me.
I don't know of any cheap programmers that I would trust. I'd suggest you look at the stuff that Microchip sells. They have affordable tools. Or ask the forum members for advice.
If you use a relay with BitSwitch then it does not seem like you would need the small SMT IC package size. You could use the 8-pin version of that chip. Also, the chip cannot directly drive a relay. You will need to buffer it with a transistor.
I'm just looking to make a nice light switch to go from one camera to another/or lights on or off.
The third style chip I would like to make is one that uses the three position switch on my specktrum to have camera straight ahead, look down, then flick to belly cam.
Any suggestions on places to buy and specifically which unit would be appreciated!